The Let Down of Manifestation and The Realisation of the Heart

          ‘It’s been revealed quite clearly that a dreamer’s dream can only be

          Reality, If two dreamers dream’

          Youngbloods, ‘Dreamers’ Dream’, from the album ‘Earth Music’, 1967

The Let Down ‘Template’

The most fundamental response of a mother to her baby, after birth, is the let down reflex.

The let down reflex is mechanically and chemically connected to the muscles and hormones supporting the breast and stimulating the production of milk.

In addition to these functions, the esoteric function of the let down is connected to a new level of engagement with emotion – or e(nergy)-motion, the subtle movement of energy and fluid through the mother’s body, especially around her heart and breasts. ‘The Milk of Human Kindness’ teaming the functional nutrients with the nectar of bioenergy: where energy and fluid are experienced together, time slows, and biodynamic phenomena are observable. In my earlier paper ‘Beyond Nutrition’ it is clear that nature supports a baby’s mother during breastfeeding to establish, develop and mature the baby’s bioelectromagnetic field within the ‘shared space’ of meeting and being, following the response and delivery to baby’s thirst.

While this esoteric function is connected to subtlety and the fine energy associated with bioelectromagnetism, it does not mean it is obscure or unknown.

Men and women the world over and for time immemorial are familiar with this experience as falling in love and ‘realising’ what being a parent means as a ‘response’ to their child – this fall into love is connected to their ongoing and appropriate ability to respond – their capacity – (related to responsibility which, being more mental, can feel more overwhelming).

Men absolutely can have an emotional let-down in their heart and chest. It is just that with women and breastfeeding this e-motion is conjoined with and has the added organic gravitas of a flow of milk.

The arrival of the let down can feel like a standing wave of emotions, an absolute gamut of feeling of every conceivable (as well as inconceivable) kind. And this gamut can sometimes happen in one to three heartbeats..

The source of the nutrients mothers use to make milk seems to be stored in the back of mothers’ thighs. The subtle energies which ‘turn’ at the clavicle (shoulder) to create this flow, seem to have come from here and then drop down across the breasts and through the whole chest front.

Let Down Misunderstood

When mothers are full of feelings in the very early days with their baby and there has perhaps been trauma or shock around the birth, instead of allowing these feelings to join this wave and wash through, a ‘block’ can inadvertently be created due to misunderstanding (in the case of shock this is more protective physiology) and the wave banks up behind the block creating what appears to be more and more distress, as well as blocked ducts, sore nipples and a range of other physical issues.

It is of vital importance to new mothers and those around them that the Let Down is understood for what it is: huge and fantastic waves of emotion that only need help not to be stopped. Contrary to the popular phrase, it is natural and esoterically functional to cry over spilt milk: it honours the truth of the feeling of let down and overflow, even when that particular meal is lost.

‘Not stopping’ specifically involves slowing down and allowing mother to name any feelings and worries or concerns or anything on her mind, without emphasising anything other than her and her presence as being important.

This is NOT a mental process, but we can quiet our minds by helping them to understand their role in identifying what is happening, by reassuring and allowing.

With a mother allowing over and under supply, beautiful and dark feelings, pain and pleasure, attending to whatever is stopping her and moving with herself when the movement comes the let down can become more and more of a steady-state. A consistent ‘golden’ zone where mother and baby can meet in peace and love is undemanding and simply given.

The universality of this experience and sharedness that mothers who experience the esoteric let down have is often erroneously understood as a loss of self-confidence or ego. Paradoxically any mother feeling low on confidence can take heart – the perception of low confidence is often a cue that they are already where they are meant to be. Confidence builds with new experience: mothers are in a new ‘field’ not governed by previous expectations and experience.

Beyond Self Realisation

The rising and falling of subtle energy and fluid follow a similar wave which turns at the top of the throat, roof of the mouth, when it is the ‘self’ which is being realised.

For many thousand millenia this latter emphasis on the self has obscured this other more universally available esoteric flow. By turning at the shoulder, this wave of milk is bringing into reality, not the self of the mother, but the connectedness and humanity of her heart.

Direct Manifestation

The Let Down and the capacity to ‘tailormake’ milk specifically for each baby – generating different meal sizes, fat contents, fluid contents, frequencies – associates this esoteric function with the capacity to manifest.

As a mother is growing a baby, growing her heart, she is channelling the very substrate of life and its creativity in its purest form. Confirming that a baby’s emotion and flow can be met in all ways, without effort.

True Responses

If the Let Down is treated as a template for the true nature of all responses, it begins to point to the possibility that it is Cosmic energy, channelled through us, which is designed to Respond to another’s feeling. Not as a demand or a pressure or even a delivery but as a confirmation, a manifestation that all is ordered and ready and available. Not necessarily delivered by the response alone but by the cosmos as a whole, manifesting in the response.

Life energy flows through us, of course, and happens along the way to meet our own needs, but if we are manifesting – this understanding clarifies that what we want, and what can perhaps offer most fulfilment, will arrive through others. A bigger circulation confirming and supporting our own internal circulation.

It is time to realise we are not meant to realise our hearts alone. We can meet our needs and realise ourselves through the grace of cosmic energy teaming with our own. But once we realise our responses are a confirmation of others’ feelings. We no longer need to manufacture artificial ones, and can honour and respect and venerate each and every response any human we meet brings.

Breastfeeding Beyond Nutrition

Through understandings from Biodynamic Therapy, and Biodynamic Therapists as Mothers and Grandmothers, comes a distilled series of lessons for feeding your baby and nurturing them physically, emotionally and spiritually – whether you are able to breastfeed or not.

1. Biodynamic presence and non-judgemental attitude

This is where you are just appreciative and you really recognise who you are with and the specialness of that person, even if they are in difficulty, you are also with the ‘bigger’ them. When it comes to your attention that judgement is present, rather than fight it, just allow it to be present, and this allowing is like forgiving the fixedness of judgement the movement of life energy can be restored.

2. Intimate contact and proximity

You probably know the value of this from attachment parenting and from understanding relationships in general – skin to skin contact, baby carrying, and co-sleeping – all draw lessons from breastfeeding and apply them to other parenting situations.

Direct eye to eye contact is also important, but one of the things with newborns is that their eyes are adjusted to find the nipple and then when they have found the nipple, what they need is to see the skin from top of their mother’s breast to her shoulder. So although baby’s eyes aren’t focused, their eyes are relating to mother.

3. Heart Contact

The other very simple, very obvious wise contact comes from the way that you hold a baby when breastfeeding. Whether lying down next to you or being held, baby is either in contact with your heart segment – baby’s body to mother’s left chest or baby’s smaller heart segment is in contact with mother’s right chest. The kindness of this does really bring a deep connection between mother and baby.

Heartmath, the US research and health app company, found:

..electromagnetic signals generated by the heart have the capacity to affect others around us,.. clearly detectable when the mother tuned into the baby. It appears that when the mother placed her attention on the baby that she became more sensitive to the subtle electromagnetic signals generated by the infant’s heart.” 1

In my therapeutic experience, any contact with this segment – the area around a person’s heart – in a peaceful way is as if whole aeons of time can pass and peace between you can really be established. All the drama can melt away and actually you look at the clock and only a minute or two can have passed. The efficiency of this heart contact cannot be underestimated.

4. Physical Engagement

The direct contact between a mother and baby is between the voluntary muscles of the baby and then the involuntary let down and reassurance of the mother. And the baby’s rhythmic pumping of the milk begins to build an electro-magnetic field in which their muscles are developed and every time they go through that process the blood somehow fills in their muscles, they reach a pinnacle of satiation and as they get sated the blood begins to fall away again.

You could say that understanding of these muscles and this oral section (indicates jaw) becomes a lesson for all the other muscles in the rest of baby’s body.

Mona Lisa Boyesen, Leading Biodynamic Therapist and Mother, wrote a paper called ‘the Infant and the Alpha’. She applied this to a baby who was unable to breastfeed and put two bottle teats on top of each other to narrow the flow so that the baby’s mouth could really engage more with the teat. And that more gentle flow, requiring more effort and the right amount of milk seemed to allow the right development. That was a long time ago so many teats are more suitable these days, but do attend to baby’s sucking.

Even if baby is bottle feeding, it is really important that baby’s lips contact flesh. It can come into contact with the breast or the back the hand. Work out a physical understanding that there is something outside itself as well as inside that is alive.

5. Time, staying with, and settling

As you settle into the breastfeeding/nurturing space with your baby, the connection and flow between your heart and your skin and your proximity with baby begins to build a connection between energy and fluid, and as the baby moves from being hungry to more satisfied, a finer and finer biological ordering begins to take place. And so the baby comes into this more refined space which is connected to the alpha brain waves.

6. At this time, it becomes important not to interrupt the baby

There are practical issues sometimes, but if you know this and you value it you can find a time in the day or night, even with other children around, even with other children at another breast, to just allow that peaceful blissful space. It is to do with recognising when baby is no longer demanding, but still present with you.

As baby is sated, but still at the breast it comes into a totally different relationship with its mother which is beyond need but still connected to the heart field which allows the brain, or any residual vigilance, to be able to completely relax.

Gerda Boyesen, Founder of Biodynamic Psychology, from the Esoteric Function of Breastfeeding says:

“The second phase is only esoteric and not physical because the child is full by then. It lies there and the eyes go up, it sucks a little bit and then half sleeps, and then sucks a little bit more and half sleeps. That is the esoteric, that is total happiness, total nirvana, total timelessness. That is where the basic security lies. That is spiritual, it goes into the alpha, it goes into the higher self. That is where the baby reaches heaven and has contact with the cosmos and the universe, the heavenly capacities and qualities are there. it doesn’t have to fight or be desperate. Everything just is, complete trust ”

And of course while the baby is in bliss of course mother can relax and become increasingly synchronised with this bliss, and as there is more and more biological synchrony between mother and baby, and begin to resonate at a similar frequency, you get an harmonic resonance where it is as if another field, which didn’t exist before, comes into being. If I were a physicist I would call it a phase shift.

Wilhem Reich said

‘Superimposition of two energy streams reaches, as a function, far beyond biology’ 2

He called it cosmic superimposition, where the biological energy meets and aligns with the energy of the cosmos, or the energy of the cosmos aligns with the body’s energy.

A baby who can develop in this larger field is by esoteric definition engaged in spiritual development, alongside its other physical and emotional journeys.

7. Carrying and Holding in other situations with Confidence

Of course, as with any other spiritual journey, there are gatherings and openings along the way, just as in the birthing process or in our own spiritual development. And as we all need support when we are not nearest our sacred spaces, we come back to the attachment model of staying alongside these spirits as they incarnate with us in this world.

This esoteric understanding takes us beyond the view given by psychotherapist Melanie Klein3 that breastfeeding is the source of a child’s knowledge of good and bad. It takes us to feeding from the tree of life – where mother introduces us to the great wisdom of our bodies through which we can gain enlightenment.

In the ancient Chinese alchemical texts, translated by Richard Bertshinger as The Secret of Everlasting Life, the ancient sages indicate that such knowledge can only be made known via a teacher.

You could say the first spiritual teacher provided by nature is our mother.

Footnotes:

1 Linda Caviness, Wendy McCarthy, Rollin McCraty and Mike Atkinson 2008

2 God, Ether, and the Devil, Wilhelm Reich

3 Envy and Gratitude, Melanie Klein